1.31.2019

#5 | Every Minute Counts

Sometimes things fall into place in a way that it’s scary. I’ll get to that in a bit.

For this installment, the topic is financial independence and investing. These activities are something I’ve participated in since I was in college and recently discovered the FIRE (Financial Independence / Retire Early) movement. I’ve always been an investor of some sorts, but in the past, I’ve been very undisciplined. I typically passively found new investment opportunities and would haphazardly invest in them if they seemed okay. This approach led to some good investments, and it led to some bad investments. It led to a potpourri portfolio with no real focus on any one goal.

When I first started focusing on Boredom, I realized that I needed to get my financial strategy locked down. This strategy is a foundational piece upon which to build other efforts. If your fiscal house is in order, that gives unparalleled peace of mind freeing up your energy to focus on other important things. If your finances house is in chaos regardless if it’s doing well or not, then that becomes a dominant storm cloud over everything you do in your life.

As mentioned above, I was a tinkerer. Where do I even start in trying to get my house in order? What project do I do with definitive results? Where do I focus? There was the newly discovered FIRE community that I wanted to explore more. There was the scattershot of existing investments that I wanted to put into some strategy along with how to generate funds for new ventures. There was the education needed to continue sharpening my mind.

I finally decided the first step was to break things into small manageable projects to allow myself to knock out one at a time. Although that let me scope out how I was going to proceed, it also just split my massive pile of effort into a bunch of small collections of effort. Enter Boredom, which helped me tackle this avalanche of thoughts and projects.

Before Boredom, anytime I had a spare minute, I filled it with pointless distractions. New sites and music were the two most common. Any free moment of thought was filled with some passive activity to keep boredom away.

And this is where the stars aligned a bit for writing this post. Yesterday I was writing the previous post, and I took notes about writing this topic. Then I woke up today and pulled up the latest Dilbert comic: https://dilbert.com/strip/2019-01-13. Wow. It’s like that comic was written for me. But I digress.

Instead of retreating as Dilbert did, I embraced that Boredom. I even blocked my favorite distraction websites to prevent the mindless habit from taking over. From this void of activities, I learned how critical those minutes were. Whether it’s 30-60 seconds in an elevator by myself, 5-10 minutes in a waiting room, or 60 minutes in the car, every minute counted. Every minute could bring me closer to completing my collection of small piles.

All I had to do was figure out how to maximize the time depending on the background activity and amount of time. For my car rides, there were podcasts. I now subscribe to 4 podcasts: Dream Big (for listening with my kids), Big Questions (also with my kids), Mad Fientist (for exploring the FIRE concept), and Money Girl (for re-focusing myself on being financially mindful). I also threw in audiobooks and went through Intelligent Investor and Your Brain At Work, both fantastic books.

For my phone time, this is where the most significant benefits appeared. My phone time strategy was broken down into two main categories. The first was dropping the phone altogether and doing something else. For example, I started reading but with the intention of only reading a few pages. Before this, when I would pick up a book, I would expect sitting down for big blocks of time to read a good chunk of the book. That didn’t work though; there was never time for that block of time. Instead, I shifted my expectation to only reading a few pages per session. I was then encouraged to pick up the book a dozen times a day, and I could make real progress. I don’t remember at what point I applied this technique to my reading, but over the past year, I’ve gone through: The Richest Man in Babylon, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, E-Myth, Profit First, Think and Grow Rich, and the Power of Habits. Possibly others that I’ve forgotten too along with a few pleasure fiction reads. The majority of these were in the latter half of the year. This pace was much higher than I’ve done in the past.

The other phone category involved keeping the phone in-hand. Instead of jumping on the distraction site of the day, I would preemptively think about what I wanted to research so that when I pulled out my phone, I had a goal in place. The first thing I did was join the Reddit FIRE community. Every free minute I had on the phone, I was reading through new threads. Sometimes for as little as a minute, sometimes for much longer. Once I felt like I wasn’t learning anything new on Reddit, it transitioned into fragmented online research. I wanted to figure out a diversification strategy so one free moment I would research one site. Another free moment, I would investigate another. I installed Google Spreadsheets, Trello, and Google Tasks on my phone. I would take notes, determine strategies, research more, tweak things again. What someone might spend a couple of hours at once to tackle, I spread out over a week through a couple of minute increments — the same for figuring out how to fund investments and new projects. Everything was broken up into a few little tasks spread throughout days or weeks.

After all of this is said and done, I look back, and I’ve accomplished quite a bit by making every minute count. The podcasts I curated for myself along with the books that I’ve completed. A diversification strategy and starting the first steps to implement it. I created a “buckets of money” strategy to help fund my projects by ensuring each active project has its set-aside funds. I became exposed to the FIRE community, what they believe in, and how they go about their goals. Even the origins of this blog came from researching things in a couple of minute increments until I could piece together a launched blog (although writing these posts do take a single large block of time to write, I haven’t mastered breaking that into small chunks yet).

Although I still go to my distractions sites and veg out to music when my brain needs to shut down. But by initially removing these distractions initially to aim for Boredom, I ended up finding a massive source of underutilized time. It blows my mind how much can be accomplished with “free” time, even if it’s just a few minutes at a time.

(Written 2019.01.13)

1.24.2019

#4 | Emptying My Plate

Having a life philosophy of any kind is pointless unless it works. Anyone can make up philosophy and claim it’s the greatest, but if there are no successes attributed to the philosophy, then the claim carries no weight.

In the last post, I explored how having Boredom as my Goal taught me how to enjoy boring tasks that in turn allowed me to complete a long-running but unachievable passion project. In this one, I’d like to explore another accomplishment and how I feel Boredom helped to complete the project.

This week's topic is buying a home. Since I moved to Los Angeles 8 years ago, I've been a renter. The high cost of home ownership in coastal SoCal has always been a deterrent. Becoming a homeowner again has always been a desire but never a top priority. There has always been something more important to apply focus.

Recently, in the middle of starting this new philosophy, my wife’s desire to become a homeowner peaked. That finally kicked us into gear. To her credit, she did the bulk of the upfront work finding the right property while I set my sights on preparing our finances. Since this isn't a story about finding the right home, long story short, we found a home. For this area of town, cash offers are king, and every listing ends up in a bidding war. Contrary to that, not only were we able to have an offer accepted without a bidding war, we were also able to negotiate a lower price than the original list price — unheard of in this region.

The side effect of our negotiated lower price was that the listing agent played hardball the entire time. After accepting our offer, he had received a cash offer for more. He couldn't force us out due to our signed contract, but that didn't stop him from attempting every legal means possible.

The story now comes back to being Bored. The last time I had to deal with the banks on a new mortgage was back in 2006 when banks were giving away free money to anyone with a pulse. I knew things were more thorough these days, so I expected more legwork. Unfortunately, I greatly underestimated how much legwork was required. The bank started digging. And digging. And digging. Every day was a new batch of documents they wanted to see. I didn’t even realize my finances were this complicated. In the end, I had sent over 108 documents to one bank (who rejected us in the end) and 40 documents to another (who ended up approving us).

It was insane and exhausting. Mind-numbing and frustrating. But it was possible. The amount of time required to pull together this many documents is incomprehensible. Some records were available online, and some needed calls to a financial institute. Some required digging through my unorganized document box. It was endless, every single night. And in truth, we missed some dates in our contract. You can bet top dollar the listing agent immediately issued a Notice to Perform, but we were able to scramble to close things out in time.

Combining the amount of legwork required to go through the loan process with our lifestyle before being time-starved and it becomes evident to me there was no way I could have stayed on top of the document requests. By embracing Boredom, it freed up my plate both in terms of energy and time. It gave me plenty of breathing room to handle a scramble. If I didn’t have that breathing room, I’m sure we wouldn’t be living in the house we currently live in now. We might still be looking for a home or might have just given up like so many of our peers. It’s possible we would be renting if not for Boredom is my Goal. Paying someone else’s mortgage and missing out on a considerable net worth builder and tax advantage and still trying to build our home in someone else’s house.

(Written 2019.01.12)

1.17.2019

#3 | Conquering Boring Tasks

In this post, I’d like to explore the completed project that led to the not-so-humble-brag that in turn led to creating this blog. That project was organizing my digital media (photographs and videos) collection.

This project was massive. Imagine all pictures from 2000 (when I graduated High School) to the current day. Almost 20 years of memories. I needed to consolidate from Facebook, my iPhone, Flickr, Dropbox, and multiple external drives. It included a total of 30,262 assets in total topping out at almost 64 GB. The result had every asset in three different locations, with two of those on separate physical hard drives that I owned and one stored in the cloud. Each asset was categorized by year first, then by top-tier category (I.E., Family Pictures, Hikes, Beach Days, etc.) if possible, then the event, then by day(s).

Finishing this at the end of 2018 felt like such an accomplishment because I could start my 2019 folder with a completely clean slate.

This project is something that I had been trying to do for years. I used to fancy myself as an amateur photographer. I wasn’t that great, but I enjoyed it regardless. My focus was on documenting the experiences with the right stream of photos and then trying to find the right composition to tell the story most entertainingly. Post-production was an afterthought; however, figuring out an effective way of distributing and sharing these images was front and center. What good was it to create these storylines if I was the only one who ever saw them?

Asset sharing even inspired me to create the very first website I built: a photo sharing website. The time was back when Facebook was only available to a select number of colleges, the term selfie didn't exist, only “geeks” had quality cameras, and photo sharing wasn’t widespread. There were sites out there that could share pictures, but they were pretty rudimentary. So was mine. It was built only to distribute my photos to my friends and family. I took asset sharing very serious.

During those early years, I had all my media files organized on the website. Eventually, I decided maintaining a subpar site was pointless when the public photo sharing sites and their accompanying social networks were mastering their craft. I turned off my site, and my media collection essentially scattered. Seems counterintuitive but by releasing control of my content, I was at the whim of these 3rd party companies. They would turn off features, change their pricing plans, modify their cap limits, or go out of business. Each website or social network organized their media in different ways along with having different types of metadata. It became chaos. It was a bit discouraging, but with so many other priorities in life, the scattering just continued.

Once I started my Boredom is my Goal philosophy, I decided this was one of the first projects I wanted to tackle. I had tried starting it a few times in the last couple of years and each time never got past the first session of organizing. It was just too monumental, too tedious, and too boring. This time it would be different.

Don’t get me wrong. Reminiscing over all the memories and experiences is entertaining. It’s both uplifting but also a moment of somber reflection. Thinking back on all of the good times, but also all the times that could have gone much better. Regardless of how much fun that might be, looking through and cataloging tens of thousands of photos is downright exhausting and boring.

Which brings me to how Boredom is my Goal worked on multiple levels to accomplish this task. Not only did it help me focus on this project for an extended period, but it also found a way to make it fun. Let me explain.

When I came up with the “Boredom is my Goal” phrase, I googled it. What I found was a lot of articles talking about how to overcome boring tasks, how to power through them, how to embrace them knowing that only by getting through them could you achieve something great. Let me tell you, all of that is bull. That implies you should numb your mind so that you can get past it.

I didn’t realize it until after I completed this project, but this Boredom is my Goal turned those tedious, painful, and boring tasks into an exciting break. What would be more fun? Staring at a wall for 15-30 minutes each day, or cataloging digital pictures? I choose the latter. When compared to being in my chasm of Boredom, it was outright exciting. And since I’m a husband and father with all these unignorable distractions, taking a break to catalog digital files was my peace and relaxation. When my alternative was staring at a wall, five minutes, 30 minutes, sometimes even a few hours of supposed tedious tasks was appealing.

I look back, and if I hadn’t adopted this new philosophy, this attempt at completing this project probably would have failed like all of my previous efforts. Crazy if I think about it. If I had followed the advice of other productivity experts, I would have found some excuse to bail. But now I was thrilled to be working on it and would be discouraged when life happened, and I would be forced to take an extended break from the project.

This conquering of boring tasks has even spread to different areas of my life. Household chores (laundry, dishes, etc.), cleaning, and also tidying up is a much-avoided task in my household. With both parents working full time and three kids, that was frequently a contentious topic. Now, I usually look forward to it. Sometimes I might be exhausted and just tapped out, but often I’m excited to have an important task (having a clean and tidy house is very important to me) to break the boredom.

It was satisfying realizing this fact, some gravy to go along with this philosophy both in helping to accomplish major projects but also in those day to day tasks.

(Written 2019.01.05)

1.10.2019

#2 | But Why Blog?

The big question is why. If my goal was to be bored, why would I undertake a new and time intensive project like writing a blog? There are a couple of reasons for this.

The first is due to a quick text exchange with one of my extended family. The New Year had just passed, and I had completed a major long-term project. The project is not essential to discuss now, and I will go into it in a later blog post, but it was something that had been on my plate for years. Finishing it right at the beginning of January felt great; I was able to start the New Year with a win. I decided to not-so-humbly brag to a few of my extended family. One of them humored me and called it a “daunting project” and was “an inspiration” to complete. In response, just for giggles, I decided to send a quick summary of my new “life philosophy.” Her response: “That is a thought-provoking ‘life philosophy’ and especially good if you can make it work for you. Thanks for sharing.”

Ding ding ding. Although not in the "let’s-write-a-blog-to-share-my-story" way. I must admit that it would be interesting and exciting to be able to teach and debate this philosophy to anyone who would like to listen. Instead, our short dialogue triggered something deeper.

I feel that if you find yourself teaching something to someone, it’s a sign that you're becoming an expert. While also in the process of explaining it, those actions help you master it too. I don’t feel I have mastery of anything yet, but I think I’ve made a step in the right direction. I might have come across something unique and contrarian to common tips on how to be effective. I wanted to explore this more. And to do that, for my own sake of translating my mind’s random thoughts into coherent sentences, I want to write it down. If I was going to write it down, I might as well post it online in case I’m able to build an audience to establish a dialogue instead of a one-sided monologue.

The repetition of thought was a critical deciding factor. Everyone who has ever worked on self-improvement knows that understanding what is best to do doesn’t always make it easy to do what’s best, especially in the middle of our hectic lives. As mentioned in the first post about the Important vs. Urgent matrix, I know the best place to put my energy was in Important but not Urgent tasks. Knowing that and doing it when there are so many escalations and emergencies and distractions is another story. With all of my best intentions, I try to focus on the most critical tasks, but if left to my own devices, it’s so naturally easy to lose that focus.

If I’m not a master yet at maintaining that focus, then practice, practice more and continue to practice. To facilitate this practicing, I want to read about it, think about it, write about it, and debate about it. This blog is a way for me to practice a craft.

With all of that said, writing a blog is something that has fascinated me for over a decade. I’ve tried starting blogs multiple times throughout the year on a variety of topics. My struggles were always quickly running out of exciting or mind provoking things to say. I never had the confidence that I would have something new and fresh to say for months and years later, so every attempt quickly was shelved. I can’t lie; there is hope that this blog will be long-running and will somehow gain attention. That’s a nice secondary goal.

In the end, if by writing out my thoughts, I can elevate my skills, I’ve won--regardless whether another soul ever reads a word that I write. That is why I decided to write a blog now, even as I’m on my quest to boredom. That, in and of itself, liberates me from all of the unnecessary and intimidating overhead of writing a successful blog both in audience size and monetization strategy.

I am free now to explore, to grow, to master.

(Written 2019.01.03)

1.03.2019

#1 | Boredom is my Goal

Where to start? Six months ago life was crazy.  But let's go back even farther. In college, I noticed a trend about Americans.

Anytime I would mention how busy I was, the reaction I received from those around me was almost always the same.  Some form of "Oh yeah, if you think that's busy, let me tell you about..." [insert any combination of classes, events, clubs, activities, social gatherings, parties, concerts, teeth brushings and personal hygiene grooming, normal meal times, etc.]. It was quite annoying. It felt as if everyone was insecure that someone out there might be busier than they were and so immediately had to compete. It felt like the more packed your schedule directly correlated to how cool you were. It was some badge of honor.

It was a turn-off. But graduating college didn't end that trend, entering the workforce was the same thing.  I'm now a decade and a half removed from college and I still get that feeling. I've lived in all parts of the US, and it's everywhere I go. At this point, I rarely talk about everything going on my life for fear of starting an unintended and "friendly" pissing contest.

Fast forward to today. As I said.. life was crazy six months ago. I'm a mid-30s gentleman who belongs to a blended family of 5.  We have three kids ranging from two and a half to 15 years of age. The youngest kid is ours, then we both have a child from a previous marriage.  I'm a senior software engineering manager at a medium-sized public company who runs multiple teams with almost two dozen engineers. My wife is an accountant who after having our youngest and re-entering the workforce, decided she wanted to become her boss. So in mid-2017, she started her own bookkeeping business. We live in the South Bay Area of Los Angeles, SoCal coastal living, beautiful but "busy" and expensive if done the wrong way.

Imagine juggling two shared schedules with our two co-parented kids, mixing in pre-school, elementary school, and high school along with all of their extracurricular activities. Throw in the demands of a high-stress engineering management job and a newly founded business. While still trying to balance life with enjoyable personal and family activities.

At a certain point, I took a step back and realized I was too busy. Right around when our youngest turned two, and we were able to start breathing again. I wanted to change that. I decided my new goal in life was to be bored. It felt great; it felt liberating; it felt like a solid plan. But not everyone seemed to agree.

During a conversation with some colleagues, someone mentioned being super busy both personally and professionally. I tested my new philosophy: "I recently decided my new goal in life is to be as bored as possible so I can get as much done." ... "I don't think to be bored works that way..." was the response I got.

True, but only I set up things incorrectly. Here's my logic. First, I seldom watch TV. I go through the occasional binge-watching phase but in general, a typical week is maybe a total of 2-4 hours a week TV, videos, movies. Second, I don't do social media. Years ago I abandoned them believing they are a significant time-sink. With those two removed, I removed my most significant time wasters.

Now I just had to take care of all the rest of the time-sinks.  Invite to do some random activity? Nope! Something fresh or fun to do? Not Cool Enough! Something "productive" that is worth doing but probably won’t bear any fruit? Pass!  Do anything? No thanks, I'm good! Within reason, I do have a wife and kids and ambitions after all. But in general, “no thanks” became my new best friend. As planned, this then had the effect of freeing up my plate. And as expected, once boredom was achieved, deep down I didn’t want to be bored. So I pulled out my list of long-running value-adding projects and started prioritizing.

In other words, I started focusing on those important but not urgent tasks. For those unaware of the important vs. urgent quadrants, here’s an article that nicely sums it up: https://observer.com/2017/03/urgent-vs-important-the-simplest-way-to-stay-productive-and-do-the-right-work/.

However, instead of trying to add urgency to my important but not urgent tasks with deadlines or accountability, as the article above suggests, I went the opposite direction. By creating artificial deadlines and accountability, that only increases the stress and pressure in your life. Much fun? Improved energy levels and productivity?  Instead, by actively focusing on removing the distractions from my life to enter boredom, I was creating time to focus on what’s important but not urgent in a calm and composed way. I was able to get clarity in thought.

And so here we are today. The night has run out, so I didn't get to the reason for starting a blog. Which is probably pretty important to know since writing a blog seems like the opposite of being bored. But, as typical, a work emergency came up requiring after-hours attention, and so here we are. Up next I'll discuss a bit about the past six months and why I decided to start writing a blog now.